You already deal with enough difficulties everyday and anything you can do to reduce stress in your life will improve your sense of well-being.
A lot of times, solutions are really simple, if the problem is approached the right way.
Typically, when someone says something like “when can you get this to me by?” the answer that comes to mind is the soonest possible date. This sets us up for stress and disappointment. We all want to please, so naturally, we tend to make wildly optimistic promises only to realize the impossibility later.
Remember, this kind of request for deliverables occurs all day long! At home, at work, from friends, family and more.
The solution is simply to provide a conservative answer that you know you can deliver. Now, I am not suggesting you provide an answer bound to displease but, one that you could live with and gives you a bit of breathing room. Using this approach, even with some negotiation, you wind up with a reasonable commitment. If you try it, you will be surprised at how often your proposal will be accepted.
On the other hand, sometimes you will be asked if you can deliver something by a certain date. Here too, you can give yourself some breathing room by “negotiating” the commitment. For instance, you might say, “of course but I will have to put a, b and c off a bit to do it”.
It is a little realized fact that the person making the first offer in a negotiation is the one in control. If I ask you how much, and you say one hundred dollars, I might have been willing to pay more.
We need to use this fact to craft t a solution that we can live with and the only way we can do it is to either suggest a realistic offer, or to put the new demand into the finite time available. You can often gain control by suggesting a deliverable that fits your commitments by offering it first. Then you will be in control of the rest of the negotiation.
Remember, you can’t just keep adding more and more without something suffering. Usually, it will be you!